I Can't Even...
… Commitment
This is going to be short
and salty as I had a whole different article planned for this week.
It was going to be a wonderful piece about invitations, and special
occasions, and how not so snub people... but then I got terribly
distracted by something that has left me quite angered and I need to
vent about it. Luckily for me, you people keep reading this week
after week and you now get to hear my rant. Congratulations, you now
know how Trent feels.
I run a pretty good
business. I am good to my employees. Really, they are like my family
and I toe a very careful line between treating them like it and still
running a successful business. We are still in a building phase here
at Alchimia Lupinaar and I have a core group of people who have been
helping me tremendously in that endeavor. Today, two of them left for
'greener pastures'. These are people I
counted on and they just abandoned me? Oh, dear reader, I am beyond
upset!
Not only did I depend on
them, but they once depended on me as well. I put work into them. I
know that sounds terrible, but I did. They came to me in need of
gainful employment and a place to stay. They were new to the Realms,
and completely unskilled in anything I could possibly need in an
employee. So I trained them. They took my knowledge that I could have
imparted to others, but they convinced me that passing it on to them
was better for my business in the long term because they had proven
themselves loyal. Well, apparently I'm the fool for buying into that
hogwash.
So today's lesson is on
loyalty. Mr. Webster describes being “loyal” as
“unswerving
in allegiance”. Unswerving.
I suppose you plebs need an definition for that too. Well, ask Mr.
Webster yourself. I'm too busy channeling my seething anger into this
instead of at the people I am angry at. My therapist says that's
unhealthy. I say maybe he should mind his own bees. (No really, he's
also a beekeeper).
Loyalty
does not come and go. You can't just uncommit when things get hard,
or something better comes along. “But Zarine, you left
Blackwood...” Yes, I did. But I did it using the proper channels
and made sure that I made peace with the proper people. I did not
just pick up and leave without nary a word save for behind people's
backs. I was upfront, made sure that we were all on the same page and
that no one's feelings were hurt. No one wants to see a King cry.
It's quite ugly I tell you.
Honor
your commitments, or no one will honor you. If you can no longer
observe your obligation, disengage from it in a respectful manner.
The person to whom your are beholden has feelings and you should try
to treat them with at least a modicum of deference. Be wary of
other's loyalties, for they are not always what they seem. Don't put
all of your eggs in one basket, because one day you may find that
basket on someone else's doorstep.
See
you next Tuesday.
Zarine
is the proprietor and Madam at Alchimia Lupanar, a magic marshal
approved practitioner of medicine, an award winning author, and has
36 years of experience in giving her unsolicited opinion.