By: Kelly "Fern" Perfetto
I am pleased to announce that the Women and Gender Minorities in the Realms forum, recorded on August 23, 2024, is now available for viewing. I would like to thank everyone who attended, as this was an incredible evening of sharing stories, experiences, advice, and camaraderie.
These videos mostly speak for themselves, but I wanted to provide a quick overview. After reading these summaries I would encourage everyone to sit down for a listen like you would with a podcast or audiobook, and take some time to think about our perspectives of the Realms.
You can find the full playlist here.
The first video is an introduction to the forum and two presentations. Nataliya “Shader” spoke about the history and future of the Huntress Guild, and Dani “Elizah” presented about the history and future of the Knights of the Lunar Aegis. Both orders have a proud history of empowering women and gender minorities in the Realms.
In the second video in ‘Then and Now’, we discussed the treatment of women and gender minorities in Realms and nerd communities in the past versus their treatment more recently. In “Oh, His Girlfriend?” we talked about how women and gender minorities are often spoken about and treated in relation to the men and partners in their lives, and how that can have a negative effect on their experiences in the community.
In the third video in ‘Fighters and Support Casters’ we looked at the impacts that different roles can have on one’s Realms career and the amount of recognition they receive. In ‘Open and Closed Tournaments’ we discussed the value and feel of Open and Closed Tournaments. An insightful question came up during this section, brought forth by Emma “Irri” - “How do I respectfully assert leadership without becoming someone who is yelling over others?” This in turn led to discussion on how to best support each other.
The final and fourth video had sections on ‘Behind the Scenes Work’ and ‘Women and Gender Minorities in Leadership’. We spoke about the often-unseen work done by many people in the Realms, and how to better recognize this hard work. We also discussed women and gender minorities in positions of leadership, both in official terms and as unofficial mentors and guiding hands of the Realms. We concluded the forum with a discussion about further forums in the future with the intent to include more people.
I plan to run a second Women and Gender Minorities Forum, and hope to see you all there!