Picture Puzzle - Who Is It?

Today's challenge is to tell us who this is? After the break is the full picture but before that we only provide a small portion of that picture. So give us your best guess in the comments and then check the answer for yourself. (photo by Dustin Mack)

Perspectives Gained on Mentoring, Part 1 by Jason "Aeston" Rosa

Take it from the more venerable among us; the older you become, the more you find evidence of how skills learned in the Realms are applicable in everyday life. This happens in a myriad of subtle ways and there is little doubt that you have encountered some of them. Many of us have gained a measure of our self-confidence from what we have achieved in the Realms. Many of us have learned how dedication to a goal can produce tangible results through working hard at fight practices. There are also more grandiose examples of how Realms experience translates to real life experience. The organizational skills gained in event holding can often be repurposed towards administrative tasks in a business  environment.
Likewise, the management that goes into leadership in a group gives great insight into leadership positions in a professional situation.

It is also the case that many skills gained in the real world are transferable to Realms. If you've worked in an industrial kitchen before, there is a good chance that you will be able to be successful throwing Realms feasts. If you are an accomplished artist then the props that you make for events will certainly be all the more stunning. If you have trained athletically and are in fantastic shape, you will have an inherent advantage in martial combat.  And while there are a myriad of other examples of how different skills are transferable into the game, I would like to spend some time talking about how things that I have discovered as part of my profession have helped me to become better mentor to some of the younger people in our community.

For those of you who are not aware, I am an educator. I teach 7th and 8^th grade science in a suburban middle school in central Connecticut. Teaching is a career that is all about people. It requires a profound understanding of how people learn and develop their talents, and it requires the people in that profession to be deeply invested in the success of those who depend on them. In this series of articles I have brought together some thoughts; things that I have learned about mentoring others in the real world that are immediately applicable to how we as a community mentor people in the Realms. If you are in a position where younger members of our game depend on you for guidance, be that in a formal or in informal ways, then hopefully you can find some insight in what I have collected. Each installment will focus on a different aspect of what I have learned as a teacher.

You must set high expectations for your students.

Every single student has potential. In some young people, that potential is painstakingly obvious. These are the students who come to class each day well prepared, who are eager to participate in the activities of the day, who study hard because they have internalized the fact that success in school is important to them. In some students, that potential is couched behind many obstacles. Their life at home could contain many distractions or they might personally believe that there is no merit to education. They might simply want to be anywhere else besides in school. But the expectation presented to teachers is that, regardless of the obviousness of that potential, all of our students be given the opportunity to be
successful.

Helping all students to rise to their potential is about motivation and inspiration. Students can be motivated by grades or other rewards, but of course not all are. Students can be motivated by consequences or fear of punishment, of course not all are. As their teachers, all that we can
really give students are external motivators for their behavior and their academics. True motivation, however, what actually allows people to excel, must be born internally. And while we as educators cannot simply bestow upon others that internal motivation, we can inspire it by keeping our expectations for them high. Setting high expectations for a student's success shows them that you believe in their abilities. If you have a relationship with that student, they respond to that belief by wanting to live up to it.

The strength of expectations is immediately transferable to mentees in the Realms. Imagine the difference between these two similar tasks that you could give to a younger player: "I would like you to participate in more tournaments this year." and "This year you will place within the top ten for Order of the List points.". The first is a lukewarm, poorly defined goal. Giving it to someone shows that you don't personally understand what they are capable of and that you're really not expecting them to impress you with the way they pursue that objective. The latter sends a clear signal that you believe in that person's ability to achieve the stated goal. I conveys a deep level of faith in their skills and the dedication
that they can bring to bear to meet that expectation. The only response one can have to that faith is to work hard to justify it. The motivation your mentees have to achieve their tasks is born of the trust you place in them to do so.

Not every person will always succeed at every goal you give them. In fact, if you are setting goals for people correctly, then some of them, sometimes, will be just out of reach. But by setting the expectations high, you are also raising the bar on 'almost' meeting those expectations as well. In the above example, it might be the case that your mentee falls short of the top ten. Maybe they only made it to 14th place. Maybe they were only able to get a handful of points overall. But meeting the goal was
not the most important aspect of giving it. The effort in approaching a goal is also what allows people to grow. If in attempting to meet your expectation, your mentee tripled their attendance at fight practices and moved on past the first round of the majority of tournaments they fought in, then they have made significant progress. But that progress would not have happened if their only goal was to "fight in more tournaments". The progress occurred because their goal required of them the effort to
improve.

The world of education is one of assessments and grades. It is a system we have all endured and that we are all familiar with. Grades within the "A" range are considered "excellent". Grades within the "C" range are considered "average". Some brief analysis of that concept begs the question - shouldn’t it be perfectly acceptable for our students to always get C's? But the expectation that we put on students is that they should always be working towards getting 100%. We don’t ask them to study only 75% of the
material, after all. When you set the expectations for the people who are learning from you, therefore, do not shoot low. Don't tell them that a "C" is good enough for you; that it should be good enough for them. Don't tell them that they are simply an "average" person in your mind. Set goals for them that they can achieve only with the full measure of their effort. Then you will see that effort come to the fore. Expecting anything less from them would be selling them short.

What You Missed - Donnybrook

Question of the Week - 136

Have you ever used the Paypal option to pay for events? Do you think this a nice convenience or not something you would ever use?

10 Questions - Sean "Wil" Veale

Sean "Wil" Veale

How long have you been playing? 

Photo by Jesse Gifford

Defenders or Duckwater  Aka ‘The corn maze event’  -- September 1993. 

How has the game changed since you've been playing? 
I don’t think the game has changed all the much;  Sure weapons tech has changed, countries have come and gone, and the balance of martial ability has swung to various group; but at it’s core the game is still about anyone who has an idea to try it out at an event.
This has lead to some terrible events, but many more great ones and I don’t see it as something that should change. 

Who have you learned the most from? 
Kathy Fae  --   There is great enjoyment in helping others.
Andi Dunphy  -- Showed me a love of cooking.
Jared Buzby  --  Franchise, Honor, and Chivalry.
Kathy Journey --  The ability to inspire folks by word, deed and action. 

What was your best moment IC? 
Squiring to Queen Meg and completing my first task within the confines of that event. 

What was your best moment as a NPC/EH/Player? 
Anytime ideas for events/ hijinks/stories come from the bedlam event.  I actually had to go into the back room a bit at the Sunday of the last bedlam event to keep my composure. 

What would you like to see changed or developed more in game? 
I personally have always disliked the double tap mentality to the fighting.  I enjoy fighting but I rarely double tap as finishing off someone that quickly isn’t fun.  I love to see some sort of evolution where you can’t hit the same location twice in 2 seconds. 

What do you love most about the game? 
Friendships, Fighting, Helping Out, Working Hard so other people can have fun.  Having a platform where we spending years crafting on a plot line that others could tell stories and songs about, and have other event holders create stories from the actions the PCs took. 

What advice would you give new players? 
If you like fighting, watch people fight, study their moves and their form. Ask people what they see after you have sparred with them at practice for a bit.
NPC every  3-4 events to see what it is like behind the scenes. 

Who would you like to see the next interview be with? 
Andrew Adams, Jony Balboni,  Becky Baron,  Peter Brillinger, Jason Rosa 

Anything else you'd like to take the opportunity to put into print? 
Stay late and help people clean up after an event if you can.  Nothing is more exhausting working hard for a weekend and then staying late to clean up.  The worst I remember was one QoH where I was there to 11pm and other staff were there past midnight.  Also please review events, Fae staff would always hold a post-mordem meeting after every event where we discussed what went wrong and what went right.  What we should keep and what we should ditch.  Reviews are in invaluable source of information in that process.

Picture Puzzle - Who Is It?

Today's challenge is to tell us who this is? After the break is the full picture but before that we only provide a small portion of that picture. So give us your best guess in the comments and then check the answer for yourself. (photo by Angela Earle Gray)

On The Order- Knights of the Tempest

What year was your Knighthood formed? 

2010

What does your knighthood stand for?

The Knighthood stands for not only the betterment of the Realms but the constant betterment of ones self.

Photo by Doug Fisher

What are your tenants? 

They are long and involved. "About two pages worth."

What is your symbol?

Our symbol is still in development as we have not hit our 5 year marker yet.

What do you look for when selecting squires? 

When selecting a squire we look for someone who is willing to work towards personal growth and willing to help the game, not just play it.

What is your squiring process like? 

Our squire process is different for every squire as each person is unique and needs to be treated as such. We evaluate the spots in the person and tailor their training to best help them grow.

Who is your current  Knight Commander?

Sir Lord Elwin O'Bearikin.

Who are your currently active Knights?

Sir Elwin, Sir Avernus, Sir Pewsadef, Sir Senna, Sir Vyx. Karn is currently a Squire to the order.

Do you have any interesting stories from your Knighthoods past? 

Our stories are as individual as each of us. Ask any knight for their personal story.